What books did you obtain?

And for the cleaning thing, I learned the hard way that if you want your living space up to your standards of "clean" you have to do it yourself. Either that, or try and learn to live with it/not let it bother you. If you get all worked up about it and nag people about it, you end up stressed-out and upset and the other people involved are pissed and annoyed at you which aggravates your stress and it's just a never-ending cycle of bad. Life's not fair.